My child is pregnant?
You may be in shock and also disappointed. That is normal. Please, try not to overreact. Your response, and how you handle this situation can have significant impact on your future relationship with your child and their partner. Your child is facing a significant emotional situation, too.
Your child needs to know that:
“I will always love you, no matter what.”
“This wasn’t the plan, but it will be ok.”
“We can and will get through this together.”
You may want to say, “Whatever you choose, I’ll support you.” This phrase sounds good, but it may make the child feel like they are in this all alone. Sharing your own wisdom from life experiences can be a valuable part of the decision-making process.
Walk through this with your child because right now they need you more than ever.
Become your child’s advocate by creating a non-threatening atmosphere to talk about feelings, concerns and plans. Encourage and help them make rational and thoughtful decisions. Strive to respect feelings, even if they are different from yours. Be understanding. Try to avoid blaming or having a condemning attitude towards anyone in this situation whether it’s your child, the partner or others involved. You can work together to make a pro/con list of all her options: parenting, adoption and abortion.
We know that what you are going through is not easy. There are no simple answers. Be there together to face this situation. Give one another time and space to process everything in a healthy way. Family crises have the ability to tear families apart or bring them closer together.
It may be a challenge and new territory for everyone, but it is possible to become stronger by working through it all together and supporting one another.
If you and your child need help in creating a plan, learning what all this means, or just someone to listen to your feelings, please come and talk to us. We would love to support you during this time.